It may be true that divorce rates are declining, but if one were to ask why, well, the answer is simple: fewer people want a marriage altogether (and within marriage there is ever more infidelity). As society has looked inward towards self-centeredness as the ultimate aim, rather than outward and towards the other, marriage’s key pillar – giving – has been the biggest casualty. Clearly, it is time to re-define what a healthy marriage is, and how we can get one, not only reviving the casualty, but transforming the relationship into the center of our well-being, security and happiness.

This is the highlight of a new book coming out by Tod Jacobs and Peter Lynn, called Not A Partnership: Why We Keep Getting Marriage Wrong & How We Can Get It Right. Tod, a former Wall Street executive and decorated journalist, and Peter, a Positive Psychologist, together have guided hundreds of young people in their personal, professional and relationship development. In particular, they have spent the last decade and a half helping young couples to prepare for and to navigate through the often choppy waters of marriage.

Looking through their unique lens, Tod and Peter give the reader an in depth definition of what marriage is – and what it is not – by combining some of the world's oldest wisdom with 21st century research and insight. Employing their Four Pillars of Giving as the central focus, the authors take the reader on a journey through the everlasting beauty of a marriage centered on the other.